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My husband is addicted to presciptions and I dont know how to help him
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    MLJ88 is offline New Member
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    Default My husband is addicted to presciptions and I dont know how to help him

    My husband was addicted to Vicodin for many years, but about 5 years ago he saw a specialist who prescribed him suboxone. Well hes still on the suboxone, I know that his dose has decreased over the years but he is still taking it. He has switched doctors multiple times and over the years doctors have put him on other medications that he now takes daily. 2 years ago a doc put him on Adderall ( which makes no sense bc my husband does not have ADD). after using Adderall for awhile, I noticed a change in him. He became irritable, pale, lost weight, insomniac, and paranoid. Then about a year ago a doc prescribed him Xanax. Well in the last nine months he has changed for the worse. Hes mean, angry, still losing weight, still pale, paranoid, has strange obsessions, and I truly believe he is hallucinating or hearing things that are not there. I have seen some really strange behavior from him that is not normal for him. his personality has changed, and it scares me. I know for a fact that when he runs out of his Adderall he gets more from some friends. Im starting to think that he may be over using all of his medications. I know that hes very stressed at work and working insane hours so I know that it doesn't help the situation. Im just really worried about him, we have a child together. Ive tried talking to him but he just gets very defensive. Can anyone give me advice on how to handle this? How can I encourage him to stop taking drugs that are prescribed to him? also does anyone know If the side effects I am seeing are true to the medications he is taking? any interactions between the 3 drugs he is on? Thanks

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    Most Doctors will not prescribe a benxo like xanex while on sub therapy. The risks are not acceptable.

    The being mean, and angry. I have felt that on adderrall, but would think the xanex would mellow it all out.
    Bottom line is: You need to draw a line in the sand. Tell him you want him in your life, but you know where this road leads and you want no part in the whole drug charade. So ask him to re-commit to you and your child and leave the drugs behind. Encourage him by explaining the the Drs will continue to prescribe for perhaps the rest of his life, but they do not care about him like you do, they do not need him like a child needs a father. They are running a business. He is their customer. Let him see that clearly.
    Fact is most addicts arent capable of quitting for loved ones. The pull of addiction is just too powerful and they must suffer and lose before they finally see. Please try to help him by arming with the facts, give it a fair shake but do not be afraid to draw that line and walk away.

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    His most recent doc did not like that he was prescribed Xanax, but continued to prescribe it for him bc I guess its too dangerous to quit cold turkey. Thanks for the advice. I have been with him for 12 years and 10 of them he has been addicted. when he went to suboxone- I thought it was supposed to be an exit drug, but he has stayed on it and only gotten worse. Now the other 2 drugs are just taking over my husband all together- Im scared for his life. He will not admit an addiction bc he is taking stuff prescribed to him. He also lies to me about his amount he consumes bc I know he gets stuff from friends. We have gone round and round in the last couple years about it and I cant get him to see how this has effected his health. I have heard a lot that an addict wont quit for a loved one- too bad because we have to watch him slip away further and further each day. Its really difficult to watch and live with when its completely out of my control. But hes my husband and I have no plans to leave him, I have stuck with him this long, I married him fully knowing he was an addict, birthed his child knowing he was an addict. I fear that if I leave him- he will have no reason to not OD, and I cant risk that. I guess I will just get firmer with him. I just hope he gets better before our son gets old enough to understand what his dad is doing to himself.

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    Re-read Artist's response to you she has some suggestions in there you might want to take.

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    Hi there. I'm so sorry you're going through this with your husband. I can relate, although it's not my husband who's the addict, it's me. Difference is, I was always very honest about my addiction. I never denied it, although I let it rule my life and damn near ruin my marriage for the last 8 years. Now I'm finally tapering off sub and seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.

    Do you guys have family around? Like his parents, brothers, sisters, etc? This may sound cliche, but what about an intervention? I'm shocked that after all these years he's still in denial about it! Just because something is "prescribed" doesn't make one bit of difference. Drugs are drugs whether they come in RX bottles or not.

    Have you shown him this forum? Ask him if he'd be willing to read the 'Suboxone Treatment" forum. Maybe, just maybe, if he sees all of talking openly about sub and how we're getting off this garbage, he may be more inclined to finally see the truth. Worth a try?

    I really wish you all the best. I pray you can get through to him.
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    Thanks for the advice and for being open about yourself. He's so distant right now that talking to him just isn't working. He's lying like crazy and I found out more info by going through his phone last night- its so much worse then I thought. I'm sick to my stomach with worry and not knowing what to do. I looked into some Nar-anon groups and went onto a forum that supports them. Everyone in the Nar-Anon is telling me to detach and let him run his own life and worry about myself and our child. How can I stand there and watch him do this to himself? Is it the right thing for me to really ignore his problem and let him handle it?

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